I am a naturally inquisitive person who loves to ask questions.
I am also impossible to offend.
AND, to top it all off,
I never think before I speak.
All this combined,
I'm probably the #1 candidate to ask a question that isn't supposed to be asked.
there is one aspect of my personality
thing that saves the world from my insensitive questions:
my ESFJ personality.
Although I often fail, I work hard to be sensitive to people's feelings.
So once I learn that a question is taboo,
it's rare I'll ever ask it again.
Someone announces a twin pregnnacy.
Emily a few years ago: "Oh, are they natural or from fertility treatments?"
Emily now: "Oh that's wonderful!"
The second answer is the politically correct answer.
I've read entire venting posts/articles/etc on how the second answer is the correct answer.
Yes, I get that many of these questions are insensitive.
I'm not stupid.
If we're being honest here...
and I mean REALLY REALLY honest...
I think we've all gotten a little too sensitive.
And really could just lighten the hell up.
Scary Mommy came out with this article called:
YES THAT'S HOW I FEEL!
I get that everyone has their different levels of privacy.
I am a classic over-sharer.
(Hello, I BLOG MY LIFE!)
But many - most? - are not.
And to question is to intrude.
But from MY perspective...
My questions are never meant to criticize,
or size up other mothers,
or one-up myself.
My questions are because I'm curious.
I want to learn.
I want to understand.
I am sincerely, genuinely interested in what you have to say
about whatever situation you are in.
But that's not appropriate anymore.