As mothers, free time is as elusive as winning the lottery.
And an hour to myself feels as luxurious as an all-day spa treatment.
Eh, I don't think so.
When I do grasp a moment of this free time,
there is so much pressure to MAKE THE MOST OF IT.
CAPTURE EVERY SECOND.
A few weeks ago,
I read this fascinating article about
Don't let the title turn you off!
It is an incredibly insightful article,
particularly for moms.
Although the author touches on several points,
what really spoke to me...
(again, that Bible study term : "this verse spoke to me...")
Historically, leisure time was only for men.
Hence why men dominant history in art, literature, science,
and so many other "leisurely" pursuits.
Because they had the time!
They weren't raising children, cooking, or running a home.
Our society is different nowadays,
moms are working the same hours as dads
(not me, but many are),
yet the vast majority of the houeswork and childcare lies with the mom.
Obviously, this is a gross generalization.
There are many families where dads are cooking,
dads are cleaning,
and dads are spending the most time with the kids.
But back to our gross generalizing,
we women are not programmed for leisure time.
This morning, Adam took Aaron for a few hours of errands.
As he walked out the door,
I looked around and tought:
"So... what do I do?"
Then my mental list started...
- clean up the kitchen
- do laundry
- pick up the house
- start cooking
I thought to this article and I said to myself:
"No, Emily. These are all things you should do.
And you will do... later.
What do you WANT to do?"
And... I was stumped.
Sometimes, in my free time,
I like to organize and purge,
but I didn't have a lot of energy this morning
so I figured no need to force something I wasn't excited about.
I read a little, but wasn't particularly into the book.
I thought back to the days pre-child, pre-marriage, and pre-house.
When I lived in an apartment with no responsibility
besides going to work during the week.
Many Saturday mornings,
I would lie on the couch watching cooking shows on the Food Network.
So here I am,
with my laptop,
on the couch,
watching Food Network.
And it feels awesome.
As free time becomes more and more elusive with a second baby,
I want to make sure I spend my free time doing things I want to do.
If that means lying on the couch,
typing on my laptop,
and zoning out to Food Network.
So be it.
I'll get the rest done later.