The SAHM vs Working Mom Feud.
Is one harder than the other?
Countless articles and blogs would claim they are equal.
But here I am weighing in with my no-one-cares-about opinion.
I've been 3 years a Working Mom and 5 months a SAHM.
So far I can say without question:
SAHM is wayyyyy easier.
I know that when you think screaming infants and tantruming toddlers,
"control" isn't the first thing to pop into your head.
BUT that's not the kind of control I'm talking about.
All 3 of my jobs (audit, finance, finance) were white collar jobs in Corporate America.
The job consisted of a variety reports, projects, and assignments
all with deadlines that drove decision making.
These had to be done and overall there wasn't much flexibility.
Now, there were certainly flexible parts of the job.
Adjusted hours, work-from-home days,
and every now and then the occasional playing hookey.
But overall, deadlines were deadlines
and if I had a crappy night's sleep or a sick kid,
I still had to find a way to finalize that presentation or get those entries in for close.
The very effort of NOT doing my job
(say, for example, handing it to a coworker),
usually took twice as long as doing it myself.
Twice I trained coworkers for maternity leave
and the training session on a 30-minute task easily took an hour (or much more).
Contrast that to staying home.
What are my deadlines?
What are my projects/assignments?
Kids need to be fed and go to nap.
Laundry needs to be done.
Dinner needs to be made.
And if I have a crappy night's sleep or a sick kid, what happens?
We can be couch zombies and eat take-out, no big deal.
I'm not saying I've done it yet but I've come close.
There's no pressure of "OMG this has to get done so it can be presented to the board tomorrow."
Everything I need to do is completely within my control.
I can change my day on a whim based on the moods of my children
(or hell, my own).
And that flexibility right there is just so awesome.
In that sense, I think a SAHM is way easier than a working mom.
To avoid turning this post into a novel,
I'm not going to delve into other pros and cons.
I am compiling a list in my head and will try to get it down in a blog post.
Oh, and just so this isn't a totally pictureless post...
here's a photo of Oliver sitting up in our bed and loving it.
Also I can't wait to paint our bedroom walls!