As of yesterday at 4pm, Adam and I have been married 6 years.
As of this coming August, we will have known each other for 10 years.
And dated for, er, maybe 9.5?
(Somewhere around there; the dating line a bit fuzzy.)
In these 6 years of being married,
we have done the following:
1. Had two children.
2. Graduated law school [Adam]
3. Graduated a part-time MBA program [me]
4. Sold our first house.
5. Bought our second house.
The New York Times published an article about change in marriage,
which had a great quotation I'd like to share:
"I've had at least three marriages,
all with the same person"
The author's three marriages:
1. Partying 20s.
2. Child-centric 30s.
3. Homeowner 40s.
Adam and I are most definitely in our "second marriage"
(child-centric / homeowner 30s),
which, needless to say,
is vastly different than our "first marriage" in our partying 20s.
And while sometimes I miss the freedom of our partying 20s,
I will say that our child-centric 30s is absolutely awesome.
We fought a lot in our partying 20s,
trying to figure out our roles in each other's life,
but our child-centric 30s is very comfortable,
as in we know each other,
we know the role we play,
and we know how to work with it.
We spent our anniversary out in the city while my sister babysat.
First we ate at Devon Seafood, which was outstanding.
Our server gave us the cutest complimentary champagne toast:
little candles in the strawberries!
...followed by the Helium Comedy Club,
where we ended up front and center with the comedian.
We laughed hysterically and had a great time.
That night was an ever-so-small glimpse into what our "next marriage" may look like.
Most likely not in our 40s (I think we'll still be very child-centric there),
but definitely by our 50s
when the kids are out and have their own lives,
and we can go back to just him & me.
It's exciting to imagine what we may do together.
Since we already own a home, it probably will not be our "homeowner 50s,"
but perhaps our "traveling 50s"
or "enthusiastic sports fans 50s"
or "golfing 50s" (if I ever care to learn).
That's the exciting part: waiting to find out!