Wednesday, January 5, 2022

Resolutions Resolved

As always, I kick off the new year revisiting last year's resolutions. 
Original 2021 resolution post here

1. Donate blood 

Yes but it was a failed donation. 
Wrote all about that experience here

2. Watch top 12 Charlton Heston Movies 

This was a goal I had leftover from pregnancy 
back when I was suffering from insomnia. 
But this year I went back to my non-TV habits, 
and quite literally never watched a single show or movie by myself. 
That's quite ok because I'd rather read!

3. Monthly Date Night with Adam 

January - none, womp womp

February - zero 

March - YES. 
We dropped all 3 boys at Adam's parents house for a sleepover
and had the entire evening and next morning to ourselves. 
It was fabulous. 
We drank wine, 
played Othelo and Lattice Hawaii, 
ate delivery takeout, 
played video games. 
Was it glamorous? No. 
Was it amazing? Yes. 
The next morning, Adam ran out to pickup breakfast, 
and at 7am, I ate breakfast naked in bed. 
10/10 would recommend. 

April: YES. 
We went away for a whole weekend
It was our 10 year wedding anniversary. 
Our original plan was to go to Ireland, 
but COVID ruins everything, 
so we went to the very luxurious Hershey Hotel. 

May: No.  
But I had a sleepover with one of my BFFs 
and so I got a date night... by myself, lol. 

June: YES
We went to the movies. 
We wanted to see Cruella but that was unavailable 
so we ended up seeing "The Hitman's Wife's Bodyguard" 
which was eye-rolling terrible
but since we hadn't been to the movies in over a year and a half, 
we still enjoyed ourselves. 

July: No. 
The month slipped away 
and I never lined up a sitter.

August: YES. 
While at the lake, 
we left the kids with my in-laws 
and enjoyed a night out by ourselves. 

September: Sort of... 
We had our first big event since pre-covid, 
an all-outdoor gorgeous Bar Mitzvah 
and it was such a fun night out without kids. 
Can we call that a date night?

October: Yes-ish. 
We had a date night with friends 
and since the kids were all at sleepovers 
(Aaron & Carson at grandparents, Oliver at a friend) 
we also had the whole night and morning to ourselves, 
so yes it was like a 16 hour datenight. 

November: Yes! 
Booked a sitter and we went out to a new brew house. 
It was delightful
 and we had a very enjoyable time just the two of us. 

December: Nope. 
There was no way we were fitting in a date night. 

4. Monthly purchase from small business / ethical / sustainable shop

January - Twice purchased from a local small business bakery 
for both mine (cookies n cream cake) 
and Carson's birthday (rainbow cupcakes). 
Never buying a grocery store cake again!

February - this cute Valentine's t-shirt from Confettees 
(which I discovered when the mega influencer Amanda 
posted her daughter in a shirt)

March - This is cheating, 
but I bought more Pretty Tasty Cupcakes for a friend 
as a thank you for scheduling a vaccine for my dad. 

April - a beautiful shirt from Elegant Tees
Elegant Tees is a wonderful company that focuses on ethically-made clothing, 
that works with survivors of human trafficking in Nepal. 
I think it's an amazing company 
and their clothes are so well made.

MayThis month I discovered 
a local Asian-owned produce market 
and now routinely go every Thursday for my produce stock-up. 
I love supporting a small, local, Asian-owned business 
and the produce is outstanding quality too!

June - I purchased two more tees from Elegant Tees

July - I purchased several books supporting a local black-owned bookshop. 
Allena sent an email of's black-owned bookstores
and I used that to locate Uncle Bobbie's
a local café and bookshop in Philadelphia.  
Books I purchased: 
All books I have read to Oliver this year 
and wanted to have in our permanent collection. 

While at the lake, 
I bought a few items from the local shop "Browsers," 
an eclectic little shop full of fun household items 
mostly designed for lake-loving tourists. 
They also have the most wildly inappropriate hilarious cards 
(not the kind you'd find at Target) 
and I always stock up!

Does etsy count as a small business? 
and a beautiful hand-painted wine glass

I needed a gift for a friend's birthday
and while normally I'd stop at Target, 
I instead went to a local boutique called Flirt
and bought a really cute hat. 
It was 3x the amount I would've paid at Target, 
but better to support a small business!

Not really, no. 
I still continue to shop extensively at our local Asian market, 
but I wouldn't call that a November-specific purchase. 

More books from, specifically from Here Wee Read
The Proudest Blue (love this book so much) 

5. Clear off and consolidate remaining old laptop photos 

Knocked this out in the beginning of December, 
when my in-laws took Carson for a day. 

6. Fast for major religious holidays 

Ash Wednesday: blog post about that here

Good Friday became the first day of Ramadan
I altered my fast from Ash Wednesday 
and decided to do 3pm Monday to 3pm Tuesday. 
It was different and I think I liked it better. 

Yom Kippur
This time, I followed the Jewish fasting rules, 
which meant no water or food for 24-25 hours. 
I was nervous about the water, 
afraid I'd be dying of thirst, but really it was fine!

Now, I did modify the timeline a little. 
Yom Kippur is usually sundown to sundown, 
but our "Break the Fast" was 5pm 
so I planned 4pm-5pm. 

I had a highly nutritious smoothie 
and a handful of almonds at 4pm, 
then nothing all night. 
The morning was easy 
and I had a burst of energy like the energizer bunny. 
I crashed in the afternoon 
and only made it to 4pm 
where I downed a pint of raspberries 
and chugged water. 
Then I ate too big of a meal 
(bagel & lox is my favorite) 
and woke up feeling terribly sluggish and low energy. 

7. Become a daily tea drinker. 

Winter: easy!
Loved the warm mug of tea in a chilly afternoon. 

Spring: meh. 
I gravitated back to my trusty Kombucha. 

Summer: hardly a drop, 
until I started waking up at 5am
then some mornings I'd make myself an herbal tea 
to sip on while I worked. 

Fall: better 
I drink tea after a chilly morning run 
but am not in the habit of it. 

8. Close every Apple Watch Monthly Challenge

January: Done!  
Got 23,800 move calories!

February: Nope.  
I was supposed to walk 204 miles 
but I was burnt out from January 
plus the snow and I just totally gave up. 

March: Done! 
Get 1,300 exercise minutes.
I got a Schwinn bike (the Peloton knockoff) 
and that helped to kick me back into workout mode. 

April: Done! 
Close exercise ring 13 times. 

May: Nope.
Supposed to get 1,200 exercise minutes. 
Only got 1,080. 

June: Done! 
Close all 3 rings 10 times. 

July: Nope. 
Goal was 21,400 Move Caloires. 
I ended at 17,435.

August: Nope. 
Goal was 14 workouts. 
I did 12. 

September: Done!
Close all 3 rings 10 times. 

October: Nope. 
Close Move ring 12 times. 
I closed it 11 times. Woof. 

November: Nope. 
Goal was 20,600 calories. 
I burned 17,910.

December: Done!
Close stand ring 29 times. 
(This is easy for me since I stand about 15 hours a day.)

Total Score: 50% 
6 out of 12 months

9. Make a Goodreads account. 
Opened the first week of February 
and documented all of my 2021 reads. 

10. Read through the Bible in a year. 
In Jan/Feb, I followed the schedule religiously (pun intended) 
but by March I was losing steam fast. 
I recommitted to reading only 2 nights a week 
and that was much more manageable. 
By April... I fell off the wagon. 

Guys, the Bible is just not that interesting to read. 
I might need a buddy to get through this. 
A Bible-reading partner of accountability. 

11. Clear out my original 10 books
Read 10 of 10!
I love this goal
because it has lead me to some really good books 
that normally would not make my library haul. 

Hell Week - reviewed here 
A Mother's Reckoning - reviewed here
Love Warrior - reviewed here 
Pastrix - reviewed here 
Little Book of Hygge - reviewed here 
Evicted - reviewed here
The Paris Architect - reviewed here 
Girl at War - reviewed here 
Boy Erased - reviewed here
The Blue Castle - reviewed here

12. Read 4 books off my educational TBR
(Educational TBR list here)
I read 2, ugh. 

Why are all the black kids sitting together? - January review here 
Evicted - August review here

I tried and failed TWICE to read "Trans Like Me" 
which will now be a 2022 Resolution. 

13. Spend 15 minutes a day one-on-one with Carson 

I did terrible most of the year 
but in late August when Carson started speech therapy, 
I set aside 15 minutes every day 
to work on our "homework" from the Speech therapist. 
This included reading books like "100 first words" 
or playing with Little People animals to imitate sounds 
or playing with Mr Potato Head to identify body parts. 

I'm a person who needs a PURPOSE to play 
(which is why I push my children to play independently). 
I needed a purpose for my 15 minutes with Carson 
and what better purpose than learning how to speak?

14. Finish Harry Potter with Aaron.

January to March, we dedicated every Friday to Harry Potter. 
Aaron would end [virtual] school at 12noon, 
and then while Oliver & Carson were napping, 
we'd snuggle on the couch to read. 

Starting in April, Aaron went to school 5 full days, 
so Harry Potter became a weekend-only read. 
We finished "Half-Blood Prince" mid-April 
(both of us cried the whole last chapter!). 

In the summer, we read Harry Potter in the afternoons 
post-pool when Carson and Oliver were napping. 
(Summer routine here.) 
We finished "The Deathly Hallows" in late August. 
Both of us cried so much during this last book!

15. Read through "Here Wee Read's
Top 50 Books of 2020 with Oliver 

 We blew through this goal,
finishing all but one book in July. 
The last book was new to our library system 
and didn't come in until August. 

I did not want to retype the list, 
but wanted a record for myself, 
so here is a scanned image of the books**. 
I starred (*) our top 5 books. 
and have bought them off of her shop

Some books I noted as "too long" 
in that they were far too lengthy for Oliver at age 5. 
Some of those Aaron read [on his own] and enjoyed. 

In addition to her top 50, 
I also used her Instagram recs to discover other amazing books. 
This included some great books about Ramadan, 
Muslim Faith ("The Proudest Blue" was outstanding)
books about body diversity ("Bodies Are Cool"), 
and so much more. 

**When I reviewed her IG, I could only count 49 books. 
But I'm saying we read 50 because 50 sounds better. 


  1. I'm so impressed with how you did with your goals. And I will be your Bible reading buddy. I want to read it in one year but I always lose steam. Maybe together we'd get further than a few months in... I know!!! Let's make the Bible our BFBC read for January 2023 -- then we'd HAVE TO finish it or risk being the first ones to not finish a book! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

  2. It's hard to tell whether or not you're into reading...? Ha! Also, thanks for acknowledging my rightful mega influencer status, although I no longer support that particular shop for personal reasons, so now I'll have to influence you to shop elsewhere ;)

    I have tried to read the Bible cover to cover a couple of times and failed. Can't wait to hear if you and Natasha make it happen!!

  3. This is an amazing recap! I feel like I hit like 3 of my 15 goals if I'm lucky haha. (And I am probably not supposed to say this but given I know you were working to get back to your pre-baby weight, but you look FANTASTIC!) I would read the Bible with you too - I think I did 1 or 2 DAYS the whole year ha. I like Natasha's suggestion for it to be our Jan 2023 book to discuss.;)

  4. Also, will you do a post (or share with me if not, ha) about Carson's speech therapy? How you knew it was needed, what they are doing, etc? I think we'll be starting with Paige this year to tame her tongue - I knew this day was coming from the minute she was born but it somehow snuck up on me too! Ha!